Tips for women and young people whose safety is at risk.
The internet can help
The internet is a useful source of information and support. People who experience violence from a partner or other family member can find information online about legal rights and options, and the services that are available.
Many people find it useful to read about other people’s experiences of violence, and things that helped them. You can contact many support services confidentially via email. Email is also a good way to keep in touch with friends or family, especially if you may be moving addresses a lot. It can even be a way to store information electronically. For example, you can scan important documents and email them to a private web-based email account (like gmail or similar).
However, it is important to learn how to use the internet safely, especially if you are living with a person who may use violence against you. Remember, family violence is not just physical. It can also include emotional or verbal abuse, threatening you, or anything else that makes you feel unsafe.
Sometimes people who use violence can be very controlling, for example controlling what you do, who you see or where you go. You may not want them to be able to find out which websites you have visited, or to read emails you have sent, especially if they relate to family violence.
This section can help you to use the internet more safely. We have tried to keep the language simple, but some sections are a bit technical, especially for people without much computer experience. It might be useful to refer to a glossary of the terms used. There are also people that can help, including family violence support workers like those at Women’s Health West.
Check information from the internet carefully
There is a lot of information online, not all of it is relevant or reliable. Good websites should provide the name and contacts for whoever provided the content. It’s also important to remember that Australian, even Victorian websites will probably be more relevant, especially when it comes to things like the law, or what services are available.
Before you make any decisions based on online information, it’s a good idea to check it with a support worker, such as a family violence worker, community legal service worker, solicitor, counsellor or other service.
Find a safe place to use a computer
Sometimes the easiest way to keep your internet use private is to use a computer which is not at home. For example, you might use a friend’s computer, or one at work or school. All libraries provide free internet access, as do many community centres and neighbourhood houses. You can find out about your local libraries and community centres from your council, or go to the Australian Library Gateway. Click on ‘map search’, then on ‘Melbourne’.
Save emails that may help you in court
If a person who is using or has used violence against you makes unwanted or threatening contact via email, it may be useful to keep this as evidence should you apply for an intervention order. This is a court order which requires that person to stay away from you. If the emails are distressing, start a new email account for emailing others, and perhaps forward the unwanted emails in your previous inbox to police or your case worker.
Protect your email privacy
If you have internet access at home, the company providing it (e.g. Telstra or Optus) will probably have provided you with an email account. Take care if you use this email address to write any emails that you would not want anyone else to have access to.
If you do use this email address, be sure you delete any private emails you write from both the ‘sent’ and ‘deleted’ boxes – a short cut is to hold down the ‘shift’ key as you delete. However, keep in mind that even if you delete your emails, copies are often kept with the internet provider, and deleted emails may be able to be recovered from your computer by an expert.
Set up a private, web-based email address
A safer option may be to set up a free email account, for example through yahoo or gmail, which no one else knows about. Then you can read and send emails from any computer with internet access.
Gmail is good because it allows you to store a large number of emails and attachments, and requires a password to view emails.
Setting up a Gmail email address is easy. Go to gmail.com, click on ‘Create an account’ then follow the prompts. If you have trouble, ask for help from a computer class teacher at your neighbourhood centre, a librarian at your local library or your social or family violence support worker.
Make sure you always sign out completely
When you are finished sending your emails from a free email account like Gmail, make sure that you always sign out completely, especially if you are using the home computer.
If you sign out, even if someone uses the ‘back’ button on the internet browser, or tries to view the computer’s ‘history’ or ‘cache’ (see glossary), they won’t be able to read your emails.
Protect your password
Choose a password that would be hard to guess and be careful to protect it, especially if you are using your home computer. Make sure your password is not stored anywhere on the hard drive, and make sure there is NO TICK in the box ‘Stay signed in’.
There are many websites that can help people experiencing family violence. You can find many in our links section. The main safety issue with using the internet is that all ‘browsers’ – the computer program you use to look at web pages – automatically store information about the websites you have visited on your computer in a variety of ways. This enables someone using that computer to find out what websites you have been visiting, either deliberately or by accident.
Understanding safe web surfing requires you to understand a bit about how the internet works. We have tried to make the following tips as simple as possible, however it may help to refer to the glossary.
Use a different browser
The simplest way to protect your surfing privacy is to use a different computer – at a library, work, community centre or friend’s house. Avoid using your mobile if you think someone knows the passcode for it.
Another fairly simple way, if you’re using the home computer, is to use a different browser. Your computer will probably be set up to automatically use a particular browser; the most frequently-used is Internet Explorer.
There are many other browsers available. Most you can download free, such as Firefox, Google Chrome, Safari, or Opera. It is a good idea to save the new browser program in a hidden folder somewhere on your computer.
Erase your tracks
To understand how to ‘erase your tracks’ – that is, remove any way for someone to find out what internet sites you have visited – you need to understand how these ‘tracks’ are recorded. When you visit a webpage, it is recorded in three different places on your computer:
- The browser’s cache: In order to speed your online viewing, your browser stores copies of every page you visit in a ‘cache’ on your hard drive. When you revisit a page, your computer may display this version instead of reloading the page. In Internet Explorer, the cache is in a folder called ‘Temporary Internet Files’.
- The browser’s history: Your browser stores the URLs (also known as the ‘address’, for example Women’s Health West’s address is www.whwest.org.au) of all websites you have recently visited.
- The browser’s typed URLs: This is a list of addresses that you have manually typed into the drop-down box on the location bar. An item from this list will ‘bump’ off the end after you have typed 15 to 20 other URLs in that browser.
- Search engines like google will also keep a history of the search terms you have used.
You can completely clear any of these lists when you have finished browsing. How you do it depends on your browser. This link has instructions for how to do this in all major browsers. If your browser is not listed, go to its homepage and search on ‘privacy’ or ‘clear cache’.
For more information on how browsers work, go to Learn the Net.
Things to remember when erasing your tracks
- Do it regularly: Remember that the cache, history and typed URL lists will begin to grow again as soon as you start visiting more websites.
- ‘Cookies’ will also be removed: removing the cache also means removing ‘cookies’ – log-in passwords, preference information or other data previously entered into a website.
This may have a noticeable effect for other users of the computer. For example, another user may be always logged in to their email or to social media like Facebook. Every time the cache is erased, they may notice that they need to re-enter their password.
It is possible to remove individual items rather than a whole list, but this is quite complex. Search your browser’s website if you feel this may help you.
Internet privacy software may be useful
There are a number of ‘anti-tracks’ or programs available, which allow you to automatically erase your cache and history from many popular browsers, as well as erasing data from many other programs such as email.
You can find comparisons and reviews here – or search for ‘internet privacy’. All cost money to download, but some allow a free trial period. Remember that using such a program will affect how the computer operates for everyone who uses it, not just you. Remember also that you may want to hide the program file somewhere.
A vast network of computers, known as ‘servers’, which store and transmit information via the world wide web.
The company that connects you to the internet, often providing your email and access to the world wide web.
World wide web
A vast network of information also called ‘the web’ that you can access via your computer.
A single page on the web.
A collection of web pages published by an organisation or individual.
A program that allows you to ‘browse’ or ‘surf’ websites on the world wide web.
Websites that let you search the world wide web, such as www.google.com or www.yahoo.com.
Copies of the web pages you visit, stored by your browser on your computer. When you revisit a page, the browser may display the version from your hard drive instead of taking more time to reload the page from the internet.
A record of the URLS of web pages you have recently visited, stored by your browser.
URL (Universal Resource Locator)
The address of a web page or web site. For example, the URL of Women’s Health West website is www.whwest.org.au
A drop-down box near the top of your browser showing the URL of the webpage you are viewing. Typing a URL in the location bar and clicking return will take you to that webpage. Clicking the arrow button at the right of the location bar box produces a pull-down menu displaying the most recently-typed URLS.